Cupid IS a Man

In, Roman mythology Cupid is the god of desire, affection and erotic love.  That is what made him the perfect representation for Valentine's Day.  We have given great ideas on gifts that men can give to cause the desire and erotic love of a woman surface on Valentine's Day, but what can a woman do to gain the affection of a man?

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My grandmother used to tell me that I was the Valentine's Day gift that kept on giving.  My birthday is November and I never understood until I was older.  The top gifts for men to receive on Valentine's Day are boudoir photos, electronics, and the gift of "love".  For those who do not know what boudoir photos are, these are classy pictures of a woman (in most cases) in lingerie or semi-dressed.  Photographers usually take these pictures in their studio or at a hotel. 
Wonderful boudoir photo session ideas can include the ones shown.  Some other great ideas are sitting in an over-sized chair, at the beach in the sand, or taking something your mate really loves (other than you of course) and incorporating it in the photo session.  An example of that is if your mate rides motorcycles, you can take a picture in lingerie on top of a bike or if he is a musician, you can take one with the instrument he plays.  Your imagination is your limit.  If you are getting photos taken, you must make an appointment to get these photos done this week so that they are ready to present on Valentine's Day.

Because Valentine's Day is so close, many stores like Best Buy and Target are running sales on electronics for those men in your life that are tech savvy.  You can never go wrong with an MP3 player or telephone upgrades.

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Impressions on a Budget

The CEO of Regal Magazine (the preeminent online magazine for African American men), Todd A. Smith talked about dining on a dime.  He got me to thinking about how so many men really dread the idea of Valentine's Day because of the expectations of elaborate dinners and expensive gifts. 

With flowers and jewelry being the top gifts given for Valentine's Day, there is no wonder that the price of a dozen roses goes from $20 to $30 in January to $50 as high as $125 in February and jewelry stores discount prices and encourage men to get their store credit card and finance the gift until the next Valentine's Day.  The common assumption that men are simple when it comes to Valentine's Day may hold water because the top gifts for men are picture gifts (also known as boudoir photos) and electronics.

Great Valentine's Day Gift

So how is any of this "impressing on a budget"?  Well let me tell you.  One year for Valentine's Day, my husband purchased a bouquet of stargazers, gave me a card telling me how everything I do everyday is why he loved me, and ran me a bath with lavenders and candles set up all around the bathtub.  I had had a long work day and the bath that he ran was the best Valentine's Day gift I had ever received.  The card and the flowers were the bonus.  Not everything has to have an expensive price tag on it to impress.

So, first instead of buying those $50 roses, why not buy her a seasonal flower bouquet that is beautiful and inexpensive or her favorite flowers.  Flowers that found to be perfect gift flowers are Asiatic lilies (stargazers) and daffodils.  Another understated flower is the forget me not.  If you pair them with violets, they make for a beautiful (inexpensive) arrangement and because the forget me nots come in white, blue and pink and the violets come in purple, pink, and white; you can pair them well with each other.   

You have the flowers, so it's time to buy the jewelry... an awesome place to get a necklace, ring, or earrings that's just off the beaten path, would be a pawn shop.  Pawn shops offer a variety of jewelry and watches for as much as 50% less than you would spend in a conventional jewelry store.  So you have the flowers delivered to her at home or work so that the anticipation is building up for the evening.  When you pick her up for you date, instead of taking her to the many chain restaurants (yes we saw the dinner special on the commercials and there is one on every other corner) take the time out to explore some great local owned business in your area.  Many of these "home grown" restaurants are very tasty and a fraction of the cost of the chain restaurants.  Houston and its surrounding areas offer many local eats. 

Another romantic option to going out and dealing with crowds of people all trying to celebrate Valentine's Day is to cook a nice romantic dinner for two at home.  For those who do not possess culinary skills, its ok, you can buy the food and put it on serving trays way before she arrives home.  In this circumstance its all about the presentation.  So you light some candles, pour some wine, and remember to pull out the chair for when she sits down.  Most local dollar stores sell candles in an array of shapes and sizes.  And when you give her that necklace or engagement ring, it will be the BONUS to the best Valentine's Day ever.

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The Precious and Semi Precious Age

Birthstones are considered that month's lucky charm and most are said to have healing powers that are heightened during their particular month. There are (as I learned) a few birthstone charts.The four common are the Modern, Traditional, Mystical and Ayurvedic Indian Medicine list.
The Modern list was adopted in 1912 by the American National Association of Jewelers.
The Traditional list dates back to the 15th century and are said to be named after the twelve gems on Aaron's breastplate.

The Mystical list is of Tibetan origin from over 1,000 years ago. The Ayurvedic is also over 1,000 years old and is associated with the Ayurvedic Indian Medicine.
January's birthstone is garnet and for the Mystical birthstone, it is emerald. Both stones are considered to have powers of purification and providing guidance and protection.
Garnet is also the traditional second anniversary gemstone.

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49 Raven Super Bowl Ideas

The Super Bowl is one the most anticipated sporting events of the year.  It is also the second biggest grilling day in the United States (second to July 4^th).  Here are 49 Ways to make you Super Bowl Party the best party outside of the Mercedes-Benz Superdome.

FOOD:

1.       You can start the party with games in prep for the big game.  When your guests come in, have them guess who will be the winner of the Super Bowl and what the score will be.  The winner gets a prize to end the night off great.
2.       Mini taco bowls—these are Tostitos “Scoops!” stuffed with refried beans, taco meat, shredded cheese, salsa (you can add sour cream and guacamole for those who like it)
3.       Spinach dip inside of a loaf of Hawaiian bread
4.       Seven-layer dip—this is a great dip because it takes about ten minutes to make (you can use ready-made ingredients) and can be kept at room temperature.
5.       Deviled Eggs
6.       Quesadillas—the best thing about these are that they can be cheese, veggie, or any meat so that your guest have a variety to choose from.
7.       My grandmother’s mustard potato salad recipe

Ingredients:

5lb bag of potatoes                8 boiled eggs                1/4 tsp paprika

1tbsp finely chopped onion    ¼ cup sweet relish        1½ cup Miracle Whip

       ¼ cup of mustard                ½tsp sugar                    a pinch of accent

Boil the potatoes and eggs.  Drain the potatoes and set into serving bowl.   Chop six of the eggs and slice the other two.  Add the chopped onion, sweet relish, Miracle Whip, mustard, sugar, accent, and chopped eggs to the bowl of potatoes.  Stir the mixer together (but not too much to mash the potatoes).  Put the sliced eggs across the top of the potato salad and sprinkle paprika over that.  Set in the refrigerator for four hours.

8.       Hot wings—these can be store bought or you can use your imagination on seasonings.
9.       Nachos
10.   Hamburgers and sliders—I love the sliders for game day because they’re so much easier to handle.
11.   Submarine sandwiches
12.   Ribs—they can be pork or beef ribs
13.   For those who have stuck to their resolutions, you can have healthier food choices you by substituting the ingredients of any of the recipes or foods above.  You can, also, add fruit trays made up of any of your favorite fruits.
14.   Jicama stick with low-fat ranch
15.   Veggie tray
16.   Cracker tray—most crackers have wheat alternatives.
17.   Veggie pinwheels
       Ingredients:
      16oz low-fat softened cream cheese    1tbsp lemon juice       1 minced garlic clove
      ½cup grated carrot                     ½cup chopped bell pepper      ½ cup thawed peas
      1 cup chopped steamed broccoli           6 (8in) flour tortillas

In a blend the cream cheese, lemon juice, paprika, garlic, with a pinch of salt and pepper (for taste).  Fold into the vegetables.  Spread the mixture across each tortilla leaving an inch at the top.  Starting from the bottom, roll the tortillas up tightly.  Slice each tortilla crossways to make the desired amount of pinwheels.

18.   Kale Chips—a great alternative to potato chips.
       Ingredients:
       1 bunch of kale         1tbsp olive oil    sea salt and pepper to taste
 
Preheat oven to 275 degree F.  Remove stalks and ribs from kale, rinse and dry leaves. 
Toss  leaves in olive oil and sprinkle with sea salt and pepper.  Arrange leaves on a baking sheetand bake for 30 minutes or until they are crisp.  Let them cool on a wire rack or paper towel.
19.   Sun-dried tomato and chili walnut layered dip
20.   Mango red pepper salsa
21.   The tried and true favorite of popcorn—it’s a very healthy game day snack if you skip the butter.
22.   Everyone loves to drink and if you choose to ditch the alcohol, there are great alternatives such as raspberry lemonade, bloody Mary, and punch.  My favorite punch is the one my mother made for us during the summer.  She took frozen sherbet (whatever flavor we asked for) mixed it with 7-up and fruit juice.
23.   For those who have chosen to drink, if you’re getting away from beer, there are some great mixes like Tropical Hooter
24.   Diamond Margarita
25.   Kamikaze
26.   Jell-O Shots
27.   Starry Night Shot
28.   Being a good host or hostess means making sure that those in your home drink responsibly so that everyone gets home safely from the Super Bowl.    
29.   Stop serving drinks at least an hour before the end of the party.
30.   Give your guest food and a non-alcoholic beverage before you start serving alcohol.
31.   Make sure that your guests have a designated driver or offer somewhere in your home for the guest to sleep.
32.   Check with your local taxi companies because sometimes they offer free rides for those who cannot drive.
33.   Know when your guests have had too much and don’t be afraid to cut them off.
34.   Offer water as a drink alternative and make sure that your guests are eating.
35.   Use more of the mixer than you use of alcohol in any mix drinks.
36.   If your city taxi companies do not offer free rides, offer cab fare to make sure your guests get home safely.
37.   Don not top off your guests drinks.  Allow them to completely empty one drink before starting another.
38.   Lastly, if you see that a guest is intoxicated and refusing a ride home, TAKES THEIR KEYS.

Decorations:

39.   Now that you have the food and drinks for your Super Bowl party, it’s time to decorate.  First, you can make (or purchase if you’re not crafty) paper pom-poms. 
40.   Give your beverages an added pop with beverage tags.  You can but tags that have the different positions of the players (Wide Receiver, Quarterback, etc.) and each guest name can go across the back.
41.   You can decorate with streamers and balloons with either your favorite team’s colors or you can have a “home” and “visitor” theme with both team’s colors.
42.   You can decorate your buffet table with a green plastic table cloth (found in most Dollar Stores) and draw white yard lines to complete the look.
43.   By adding football shaped plates, it will set the mood for a great Super Bowl party.
44.   If you have children who are in football, you can use their helmets (if you don’t have children, sports stores have them year round) for centerpieces.
45.   By using felt or construction paper, you can make a team banner that can hang over your buffet table and even from the ceiling.
46.   You can print out pictures of your favorite players, use cut-outs of footballs, and logos from each team and stable or glue the items to curling ribbons and hang them from the ceiling.
47.   Go to your local crafts store and pick up referee figuring and put them around the food so that it gives your guest a feeling of getting ready for some football.
48.   If you have time you can use wheat grass to simulate a field and add football shaped cake pops into the “field” as an inordinate centerpiece.
49.    If you have the drive but not the time, you can always call Brides Made Consulting (within the Houston Area) and we will be happy to come out and set up for you. By calling 713) 514-5718 or 832) 290-9161.

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